3 tips to stop Christmas party bingeing

3 tips to stop Christmas party bingeing

3 tips to stop Christmas party bingeing (and survive the silly season).

 

Yes, it’s that wonderful time of year again – The “Silly Season”

I can feel the anxiety rising from all the ladies currently on a diet and trying to control their weight.

So many parties and so many tasty treats. How will you cope?

We’re drinking at parties and gatherings, getting excited about stuffing our face with all.the.food. Turkey, ham, pavlova, prawns, pudding, gingerbread cookies and more booze, to the point where we need to take an afternoon nap.

Yes, the temptations to binge eat or overeat at this time of year are endless!

If you’ve found it hard not to binge eat and maintain your weight over the Christmas holidays in the past, you are not alone. On average Australians gain 0.8-1.5kg over the Christmas period.

One to two kilograms might not sound like much, but researchers have identified that weight gained over the holiday period is rarely lost.

The good news is – I have a plan to help you stop the compulsion to binge at Christmas parties and generally not overeat throughout the silly season, at night, on the weekend and even when your emotions are out of control. All year round in fact!

There are many strategies and tools we can use to radically reduce if not completely eliminate christmas party bingeing. A single blog post could not do it justice, so I will leave you with three tips that I think are the easiest for you to get started with.

If you go into the party or gathering armed with these three tips, you will feel less anxiety, you will thoroughly enjoy your company, and there will be no food guilt in sight. You will have a wonderful Christmas holiday experience, that will allow you to love yourself, rather than hate yourself before and after eating.

 

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Here are 3 tips to stop Christmas party bingeing and help you survive the Silly Season:

 

1. Do not starve yourself prior to a party to keep calorie intake down! This is a huge mistake I see so often. If you are famished when you get to the party, you will unleash a crazed individual that will wipe out the entire buffet! (true story). Eat your meals as you normally would throughout the day. This will ensure that by the time you strut past all of the amazing food, you are in your right mind and can make sensible food choices. You will then fully enjoy the party without the fear of overeating and post binge guilt.

2. Do not stop moving! When you stop moving your focus shifts and your self-control goes ‘walk about’. Keep walking, swimming, dancing, beach volley ball, tag, kick the footy, play cricket, surf some waves, play games with younger kids or go on a hike. What feels enjoyable for you. Just keep swimming… even 10-20minutes a day helps.

3. Take a plate with you!  Not only is this a lovely gesture, but you are ensuring that you’re covered with healthy snack options in case there is nothing that suits your eating plan. Veggie platter and hummus dip, grilled chicken skewers, fruit skewers, sweet potato or beetroot chips or peanut butter bliss balls. All totally delicious and healthy! Perhaps make a new recipe you have been wanting to try. The list of ideas is endless.

You don’t need to be the Grinch that stole Christmas and not eat. If you’re hungry, please eat! If you go in armed with a plan you will not be racked with guilt, bloat and lethargy after eating.

If there’s one take away from this list I want you to know, it’s – do not go into the party ravenous. This is an almost certain way to set yourself up for christmas party bingeing. 

But, most of all have a FUN! Apart from taste – balance and variety are some of the keys to receiving satiation from your food. So mix it up and try new foods. Hopefully with these tips you will help you relax and enjoy the parties, and enjoy ALL the food, knowing you have a few sneaky tips up your sleeve.

Put on your party dress and heels and enjoy the Silly Season, without Christmas party bingeing. Need help with that? Get in touch with me here>>

 

kelly renee eating behaviour coach

 

 

How to Stop Overeating on the Weekends

How to Stop Overeating on the Weekends

Feel like you overindulged or ate too much over weekend? The weekends can be tough in the eating department for a lot of women. Read on to hear why you’re likely overeating and what you can do to stop overeating on the weekends.

Stop overeating on the weekends

 

Does this look familiar?

Your eating is “good” all week.

Your eating is “bad” over the weekends.

For many women who struggle with chronic dieting and disordered eating patterns, the weekends are the only time they allow themselves to loosen the reigns on their food rules. Sadly for many, this is their one and only food highlight of the week.

Consequently, overindulging in a food item that you restrict is common if you are a chronic dieter. This is called:

Deprivation backlash-rebound eating.

Here’s a common scenario: you deprive yourself of a certain food, such as chocolate because you are on a diet and you are not allowed to have chocolate on a diet, right?

Then an old friend comes to visit and brings you a box of chocolates. You put them away vowing you will not open it. A family member spots the chocolate, opens the box and now what do you do?

Hmmm, I’ll just have one, really, only one.

But suddenly you’ve had more than one, and at this point you think, you may as well finish the box because you promise yourself you won’t have chocolate ever again. You truly believe that you won’t. Yet, now feel guilty and as a punishment you skip dinner only to find yourself bingeing into the evening.

The above scenario is one example of the backlash that happens when you deprive yourself of a food. You rebound by eating, and overeating. And as every over-eater knows, the fun of a runaway indulgence comes with a hefty price tag.

The consequences

 

You feel physically uncomfortable, bloated, perhaps even sick to your stomach. Mentally you beat yourself up. You without a doubt feel guilt, shame and anger at yourself for not having more self-control and willpower.

Overeating on the weekends can sabotage your health and wellness goals, as weight fluctuations are an inevitable part of binge eating. 

How to Break The Cycle of Weekend Overeating

 

No more food rules = no more dieting

Dieting tells you:

  • what you can and can’t eat,
  • when you can or can’t eat it,
  • how you can or can’t eat it, and/or
  • how much you can or can’t have

These rules take up an awful lot of brain space and they don’t leave any room for flexibility or…life. They also set you up for dis-inhibition… aka the “stuff it effect!”.

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The “Stuff it Effect!”

 

Here’s how the “stuff it effect!” works:

Let’s say your #1 Food Rule is – I Don’t Eat Carbs. No croutons on the salad, won’t touch a sandwich, hold the potatoes with your roast and no rice with your curry.

In your world, carbs are “bad”.

But this weekend, you find yourself out with friends, and everyone’s having pizza. You hold out for a bit. Finally, you give in and grab a slice.

Then all of sudden, you’ve “blown your diet”, so you may as well keep eating. Cue the binge and uncomfortable physical and emotional after effects.

Eating by the rules almost always leads to overeating (eventually), because once you deviate, there’s nothing left to guide you and you can only deny yourself carbs for so long.

The Solution: Ditch the diet and reconnect with your body.

Intuitive eating is a philosophy of eating that makes you the expert of your body and its hunger signals.

Essentially, it is the opposite of a traditional diet.

Intuitive eating doesn’t impose guidelines about what or when to eat, or what to avoid. Instead, it teaches that you are the best person to make those choices with enough practice.

Non-dieters (or so-called “normal eaters”) eat when they’re physically hungry and stop when they’re physically full, no matter if it’s a Wednesday or a Saturday, morning or evening, work lunch or happy hour.

It’s called Intuitive Eating and we’re all born natural intuitive eaters.

Its an approach developed to help people heal from the side effects of chronic dieting. Dieting and diet culture has thrown our inner intuitive eating compasses out of whack and we no longer trust our bodies to tell us when we should eat.

Initial studies of intuitive eating have found that “intuitive eaters” have a decrease in weight, thin idealisation, and triglycerides, and an increase in well-being, good cholesterol, and self-esteem. However, intuitive eating is a practice, not a magic pill. It can take anywhere from a couple months to a couple of years to master, depending on how long you have been dieting for.

If this is you, start by paying attention to your own food rules and responses. When and where are you likely to say, “Stuff it!?”

What might happen if you let go of that rule and really tuned in to your physical hunger and fullness cues and ate when hungry and stopped when you were satisfied?

What if you ate a slice or three of pizza on Tuesday night and your world didn’t fall apart?…

Here’s where to start.

Ask yourself: Is dieting working for you?

 

If you’re loving your guilt ridden, weekend rebound eating and you’re happy with the results, keep doing it. However, if this is not working for you, it could be time to investigate other options.

Perhaps it’s time to try different, not harder. You only have to look back on how many failed diet attempts you have had to tell something is not working.

Ask yourself:

What does weekend overeating do for me?

What does it enable me to achieve or feel?

Does it solve my problem or does it serve a purpose for me?

Past clients tell me that weekend overeating is self-medication for stress, or for stimulation and novelty. Because they were essentially starving themselves of both food and pleasure during the week, thanks to strict dieting.

Please re-read those last two sentences.

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What else can I do?

 

Over ate Saturday night? No problem, wake up Sunday morning and start again. Don’t try to compensate and start restricting.

Drink a big glass of lemon water in the morning. Get out and go for a walk in the fresh air and sun. Eat some fruit and veg (particularly leafy greens, broccoli and cauliflower). Get an early night on Sunday.

Moreover, aim for “good enough” instead of “perfect” eating. There really is no such thing as perfect eating or one perfect diet. Aiming for perfection is contributing to the problem. There needs to be some flexibility.

When you let go of dieting and weekday (Monday-Friday) food rules and restriction, the overeating on the weekends cycle breaks.

No more deprivation. No more rebound overeating. No more guilt. The cycle stops.

By doing this you put yourself in the best possible position to improve your health; physically and mentally. AND your weight eventually stabilises in it’s happy, balanced place.

Eating doesn’t need to be this difficult.

It’s time for you to make peace with food and your body, so you can once and for all stop the dieting cycle. If you need help to stop overeating on the weekends, please don’t hesitate to contact me here>>

kelly renee eating behaviour coach  

How to use mindfulness to stop binge eating.

How to use mindfulness to stop binge eating.

From the outside unwanted eating habits such as binge eating, emotional eating, and stress eating may seem like it’s solely a food-related problem. That people just need to gain better self-control around food. However, that is simply not true. In this post I discuss how you can stop binge eating by using a mindfulness practice.

 

How to use mindfulness to stop binge eating

 

People experiencing binge eating episodes will characteristically eat abnormally large quantities of food in a short period of time. Binge eating feels like the ultimate loss of control. Those who experience it often worry that their self-destructive relationship with food will define their lives forever. However, a recent study identifies a path to healing: Mindfulness, in particular – Yoga.

“The study was conducted by researchers at Deakin University in Australia. They found that yoga can help overweight and obese women who struggle with binge eating. The 12-week yoga program included postures, breathing, relaxation, and meditation. All of the practices emphasised mindfulness, or non-judgmental awareness and acceptance of thoughts, sensations, and emotions. The women attended one 60-minute yoga class per week and were encouraged to practice at home for 30 minutes a day. By the end of the 12-week program, the women reported less binge-eating, higher self-esteem, and a more positive body image. The group also showed statistically significant decreases in BMI as well as hip and waist measurements”.

 

Treatment options

 

Thankfully, there are many different treatment options: traditional medicine and holistic philosophies, that can help a person break free from binge eating or Binge Eating Disorder(BED). Combining alternative and conventional forms of treatment can be an effective way of overcoming binge eating and BED. I think both have a place in helping people to stop binge eating.

Treatment is usually a collaborative approach among various disordered eating and eating disorder specialists – including your general practitioner, psychologist/counsellor, and a registered dietitian or nutritionist.

Which may include vary but usually combine behavioural therapies, pharmacotherapy, and medical nutrition therapy.

 

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How mindfulness can help you to stop binge eating?

 

Mindfulness – Originally rooted in Eastern influences, mindfulness teaches the practice or state of conscious awareness of oneself, the present moment, thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations.

Binge eating is often a coping mechanism for overwhelming emotions such as sadness, guilt, anger, anxiety and depression. When someone is depressed and they binge eat, it can be hard to know if one condition causes the other or if they’re unrelated. However, it is very common for people to get depressed after a binge. Mindfulness has long been considered an effective supplemental treatment for depression.

Breaking free from binge eating is not just simply learning how to eat “correctly” or have greater self-control around food. Dealing with the underlying layers related with binge eating is vital to finding recovery and being able to successfully manage the symptoms associated with binge eating.

Mindfulness helps a person on numerous levels, including regulating their food intake as they are better able to tune into the natural hunger and fullness cues of the body. Incorporating mindfulness techniques into disordered eating and eating disorder treatment has been shown to reduce binge eating, improve nutritional outcomes, improve weight management and also diabetes management.

 

Types of mindfulness

 

  • Meditation
  • Yoga
  • Tai chi
  • Relaxation techniques
  • Prayer

Essentially these techniques help individuals reconnect with themselves, something that is typically lost in the vicious cycle that comes with disordered eating and eating disorder behaviours.

10 minutes a day is all it takes to:

  • Activate a relaxation response
  • Decrease stress
  • Improve the quality of sleep
  • Improve control of emotions and moods
  • Improve coping mechanisms when under stress
  • More mindful and conscious of what and when we are eating

Have you practiced mindfulness to help you stop binge eating? Did this help you more effectively manage your symptoms of binge eating?

If you need help to stop binge eating, take a look at my coaching program Stop Punishing Start Nourishing here>>

 

kelly renee eating behaviour coach

My Top 5 Strategies To Stop Emotional Eating

Emotional eating. Stress eating. Call it what you will. They are pretty much the same thing. Because of the emotional connections we have with food, it is so much more than just fuel for our bodies. We celebrate, mourn, and medicate with food. And it’s the self-medicating with food part that we need to sit up and pay attention to.

Everyone emotionally eats to a degree. The difference being some people will eat one Mars Bar and be satisfied, where many others will eat a whole family size block of chocolate, plus some. Sound familiar? Emotional/stress eating is a bit paradoxical, in that the answer is simple: find out what’s stressing you and work on it stopping the stress. However, doing the work is not necessarily easy. But my friend this is where the healing takes place. Why? It means if you want to stop or reduce emotionally eating, you have to pull your sleeves up and dig deep. Go within and get to the heart of WHY you’re reaching for food to cope. Because 99% of the time – IT IS NEVER ABOUT FOOD…

But in saying that, we are human right? We have a heart, therefore we are emotional beings. Complex, unpredictable, and feelings-filled creatures. We love, laugh, cry, hate, break down and rise up. Sometimes all withing the one day! So, how could we NOT be emotional eaters? We love food. We love our favourite restaurants. We love to celebrate with food. We love how food can makes us feel good. Some of us love cooking for others as a profession. Some of us are passionate about studying nutrition.

We also strive for an impossible, unattainable goal (an unrealistic weight or to look like we did when we were 18) that constantly leaves us hungry, frustrated and a failure. Dieting and overeating make fabulous bedfellows. Yes, this thing called “emotional eating” can be extremely painful and menacing, but it’s not the actual problem – it’s a symptom that’s pointing to something deeper. It’s an alert mechanism from our body calling us to check in, and follow the flow of emotions within us to see where our heart is calling for more awareness, curiosity and insight.

This list is by no means exhaustive. There are many other wonderful strategies that can help you stop turning to food as a way to cope when you get stressed. You can stop self-medicating with food and break free of the habit with practice and patience. Here’s 5 strategies you might like to try:

1. Slow down.

The first step toward reducing emotional eating is stopping yourself from turning to food the very second you feel stressed. You first need to stop and slow down. Give yourself a moment to analyse what’s going on and what your are feeling. Then honestly ask yourself – is eating this food going to be the answer to my stress? It’s likely it’s not. It will definitely give you a short term release from the negative feelings, but it’s not going to solve your problems. Analyse your feelings, try to label them and write them down in a journal so you can understand what’s behind them and the action you’ve become accustomed to taking when you feel them. Pay close attention to the external triggers that influence your desire for food.

2. Give yourself Vitamin P – Pleasure.

As humans we’re genetically programmed to seek pleasure. Pleasure makes life worth living. Buy yourself flowers, wear comfortable clothes, take bubble baths, listen to your old favourite music, laugh with friends, travel, take an art class…do what you LOVE to do. Give your body other ways to experience feeling good, aside from food. However, if you do find yourself elbow deep in a binge, allow yourself to fully enjoy it without guilt. Sit down and savour every single bite. Many times emotional eating is just our body’s attempt at experiencing pleasure if we are lacking pleasure from our lives. Make pleasure a priority in your life. Pleasure is the secret antidote.

3. Don’t desert yourself.

Emotional eating provides a temporary release from discomfort, and it provides a short term sense of pleasure and satisfaction when you’re feeling something you don’t want to feel. Overeating has a numbing effect on our unwanted feelings, and takes our attention away from them. The key to ending this pattern is not to desert yourself when your emotions go off-center, but instead invite them in and allow yourself to feel your feelings; instead of eating them. By listening to your emotions, you’ll discover what you’re truly hunger for in and out of the kitchen.

4. Know your triggers.

Learn your triggers and get a strategy in place for when they pop up. If you know you eat when you’re lonely, plan to call a friend or invite a friend over for dinner. If you know you eat when you are stressed, get outside and go for a walk. Always carry food such as raw nuts/seeds, dark chocolate, tinned tuna and fresh fruit with you, so you never feel deprived. Emotional eating can be your body’s reaction to feeling deprived. Especially if you are on a strict calorie reduced diet. Stock your fridge, cupboards and freezer with delicious, healthy foods, and pack your calendar with exciting things to do. Self-care is an important element in ensuring you are better able to handle stress. Set aside me-time for self-care on a weekly basis, and watch your stress levels and emotional eating subside.

5. Eat a substitute food.

All this, “end your stress and you will never emotionally eat again” can be a little hard to swallow (pardon the pun). I can tell you from personal experience that the “just say no” strategy rarely works in the beginning. So if you are craving something sweet instead of inhaling a block of Cadbury’s chocolate, can you instead buy good quality dark chocolate or make your own with a good quality chocolate protein powder and coconut oil? If it’s something savoury you crave instead of a big bag of chips, can you have popcorn instead? Pizza? – Toasted cheese sandwich? Hot chips? – Homemade sweet potato wedges? Soft drink? – Kombucha? White bread – Sourdough? Cake? – 2 ingredient pancakes?…You get the message. Sometimes swap it, don’t stop it is a good strategy.

Whatever you choose to do, if you work toward solving the root cause behind your emotional need to eat, the cravings will begin to subside. My clients often blame themselves for giving in to food cravings, beating themselves up for not having enough willpower. But it has nothing to do with willpower and everything to do with finding ways to cope with the emotions that lead you to food in the first place.

I hope that was helpful. Are you a reformed emotional eater? Got any tips you would like to share? I’d love to know!

Be gentle with yourself,

– Kelly ♥

How To Get Back To Normal After A Big Food Binge

After you’ve had a big binge on food, you’re going to feel physically uncomfortable:  bloated, very full, gassy, or heavy. You may have a headache, have a sugar high or feel sleepy. Beyond how your body feels, you will probably also be filled with uncomfortable emotions, such as: shame, frustration, hopelessness, regret, or anger.
In this post I will share with you how I cared for my physical body, as well as my head (mental health) after I used to binge. I’ll also share some thoughts on how you can prevent binging next time, and how you can overcome your binging for good with a little help with someone who has walked in your shoes.
Supporting your physical body after a binge:
  1. Eat regular meals. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but fasting or skipping meals after a binge will only destabilise your blood sugar, which can easily lead to another binge and feelings of guilt.
When you’re hungry again, eat. If you binged at night, start fresh by giving yourself a healthy breakfast. Stick to whole foods and drink lots of water. Vegetable based meals often feel good after a binge.
Starving yourself after a binge can be a subtle form of punishment. By contrast, feeding yourself when you’re hungry again is a tangible way of saying, “I forgive myself. I don’t have to suffer because I made a mistake.”
  1. Give your digestive system gentle support. To help your body detox from lots of food, fat, salt or sugar, try having a cup of mint tea to soothe your digestion. Eating probiotic rich foods – kombucha, fermented vegetables, yogurt, kefir – can also help settle and support your digestion.
  2. Offer yourself regular, rhythmic self-care. After a binge you may have intense food cravings for a few days. Your body may feel out of whack as it tries to digest and assimilate the excess food.
What helped me to move through the discomfort of intense cravings and the urge to binge, was basic structure and routine in my day; or what I call “grounding”. Grounding helps you feel in control, capable, and strong. Everyone likes routine. Routine can take over when you feel tired, overwhelmed, or crazy around food. You can ground yourself with regular meals, a daily routine, sleep, and gentle movement.
Ways to support your head (mental health) after a binge:
  1. Give yourself compassion and forgiveness. Beating yourself up doesn’t facilitate change. When you’re caught in blame and shame, your brain moves to defend you. The consequence is that you’re not free to adapt and grow: you’re not able to learn from your mistakes. Compassion on the other hand, moves your brain into a space of safety, freeing you to learn and grow.
  1. Move the emotions through your body. A binge brings up strong emotions. A walk is a great way to move the painful regret, frustration and disappointment after a binge. A good cry can also move strong emotions. Other ways to move the emotions:  writing, exercise, gentle yoga, stretching, deep breathing, rocking in a rocking chair or swing, meditation and dancing.
  2. Get support. You may find yourself hiding after a binge, feeling caught in shame. There’s tremendous vulnerability in sharing ourselves so intimately with another. But in reaching out, there’s also a big payoff: connection instead of isolation.
Possible ways to stop binging:
Seek to understand. One of the most powerful ways you can cultivate self-forgiveness is to re-frame why you binge. Many people see bingeing as a problem of poor will power, lack of self-discipline, or a character flaw. When they binge, they then see themselves as someone with poor will power, selfishness, or low character. No wonder that point of view causes so much shame and pain.
I offer a different perspective: You’re not bingeing on purpose. You’re bingeing to meet a need. Binge eating is an emotional coping strategy driven by deep, unmet needs. On this emotional level, your bingeing makes absolute sense, as messy or illogical as the overeating may appear on the surface.
Be mindful of the outcome. If binge eating is only bringing you pain and suffering in your life, then it is not working. When you’re able to truly feel and know that the binge eating isn’t working at meeting your needs and it is not serving you, you’re able to change your habits with food.
Have you successfully left binge eating behind you? Share your tips with ending binge eating.

Kelly x

P.S For more support I am now offering Breakthrough Sessions. This is a great way to get your feet wet if you are curious about working with me one-on-one. This is a one time VIP private consultation that will last 45 minutes.
This is dedicated to individuals who need support and guidance around one particular issue that may be popping up.
Breakthrough sessions include:
45 minute consultation via Skype or phone (Australia only by phone sorry)
Breakthrough worksheet with strategies, action steps and journal questions.
One follow up email
Two tips that helped my binge eating recovery.

Two tips that helped my binge eating recovery.

It’s time to get vulnerable about our binge eating recovery. As many of you know, I went to hell and back again with my eating and body image issues. There were wounds and pains I hadn’t ever explored until about five years ago. During my healing, there was a lot of confusion and overwhelm, and a lot of eating. A lot of eating. In this post I discuss two tips that helped my binge eating recovery.

 

My binge eating recovery

 

If you have ever binged or are currently still struggling with binge eating, there’s two strategies I want to offer you that I could have done with when I was struggling.

  1. Stop the judgement.
  2. Reach out and talk.

I learnt that binge eating is not bad. Even if our eating behaviours are maladaptive and we desperately want to fix them; binge eating is nothing to be ashamed of.

It’s your body’s wisdom whispering (or screaming) at you to slow down and listen. It’s a message from yourself to yourself. You can learn from these experiences with food and they can teach and reveal a lot about yourself. Keeping yourself locked into judgment, ridicule and shame over binge eating only perpetuates the cycle.

What ever your bingeing is trying to help you get through, it is very rarely solely about the food. Food is not inherently evil. It just happens to be readily available, affordable and an instant soothing short term fix. Exaclywhat we think we need in the moment and then it becomes a habit hard to break. 

 

my binge eating recovery

 

In time, another lesson that helped my binge eating recovery was to reach out and talk. The next time you’re feeling the overwhelming urge or need to binge, pick up the phone and talk to someone. A bestie, your mum or dad, a sister or a counsellor.

As I mentioned above, unless physcially hungry (which is probably the case if you’re dieting to control your weight), bingeing can start because of non-food reasons. Talking through what’s bothering you can help you resolve the underlying issue and prevent a binge.

 

Full binge eating recovery is possible

 

I have worked through my struggles and I’m now celebrating five strong years of recovery. My binge eating recovery has become my lifestyle and I’m still learning every day. My mental health is now more of a priority, than reaching an arbituary number on the scale. I’ve built daily actions, behaviours and habits into my life, that have helped me transform my relationship with food and my weight.

My whole life has totally transformed as a result of my recovery journey and yours can too. I’m not ashamed and have a healthy sense of self and enjoy living in a healthy body and mind. If this is something that you need help with, take a look at my one-on-one program Stop Punishing Start Nourishing here>>

 

kelly renee eating behaviour coach